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CHANGING LIMITING BELIEFS WITH NLP LIFE COACHING

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How to instantly change 'I can't' into 'I can'

I stopped believing in Santa Claus when I was six. Mother took me to see him in a department store and he asked for my autograph. Shirley Temple

DO YOU Have a nagging voice in your head that stops you doing what you want? Talk yourself out of getting what you want? Avoid trying new things? Go for the safe option all he time? Feel that you are missing out? Get frustrated at your shyness and lack of confidence? Hold your true self back from being the great person you could be?

WOULD YOU Like to be confident about what you want to do? Like to be fearless and not even think twice about being the real you? Like to banish that voice in your head that says, you can't? Like to stop existing and start living?

Beliefs are the source of energy that either propels you in a direction or holds you back depending on its context. This technique is useful to raise your awareness of your current beliefs and to understand their effect on your current behaviour and choices.

It also helps to identify any beliefs which are outdated and detrimental to your current desires. Completion of this technique will give you the freedom to move on and update your personal beliefs. This will help you to attain your dreams.

Our behaviours are based upon the foundations of our beliefs. If we believe in A then we will behave according to A. If we have a strong belief in B then we act according to B. If we want to change behaviour A and start a new behaviour C then we have to remove belief A and replace it with belief C

EXAMPLE A

BELIEF A BEHAVIOUR A I believe I have no confidence. Therefore I will not participate in anything new outside of my comfort zone.

BELIEF B BEHAVIOUR B I am confident at some things Therefore I will weigh up the but not others. pros and cons of doing something but not others. new and only engage in it if I am forced to.

BELIEF C BEHAVIOUR C I am successful in some Therefore I eagerly try new areas of my life and have no fear things without any fear or stress. Of trying new things with no outdated I enjoy my life and the new beliefs holding me back. opportunities that come my way.

Sometimes although we have a strong desire to change we can be held back by an old belief that we have not updated or taken into consideration. Some beliefs are established at an early age and we fail to address their relevance as we change and develop. Outdated beliefs are often the foundation behind the crippling behaviours that are preceded by that phrase, 'I can't' that crops up and prevents people from attaining your desires.

Here's another example

DESIRED BEHAVIOUR Tom wants to go for promotion and in so doing so attain greater self-esteem, develop his skills, stop being bored, look forward to going to work and receive more praise and greater financial awards.

LIMITING BELIEF However Tom was told at school, 'Don't interrupt the teacher, you'll never be smart enough and only speak when you are spoken to. He has maintained this useless belief at the back of his mind but it is having a detrimental affect on his present life.

Some beliefs we want to keep and some are holding us back. What would happen if you still believed in Father Christmas? How would this belief affect your life? How disappointed you would be if you expected your presents from a mythical person who only exists in the minds of children. As you have changed and developed you have updated this belief accordingly so that you can act accordingly and address the new information.

Some people wish so badly for a dream and never take that step because of a limiting belief. They never take to the world stage and show their talents for fear of what others might think. The greatest opponent you will ever meet is yourself, far more powerful than your greatest foe. Any sportsperson will tell you that the main person you have to beat o succeed is in your own mind. You are the person that is holding you back, stopping you getting promotion, that relationship, living that dream and being yourself.

However everyone has the natural ability to change any limiting beliefs and you will find it easy to upgrade your beliefs. Once you have addressed your limiting beliefs your new beliefs will improve your life in many ways. You will be amazed at the benefits and reduction of stress and pressure.

People who have a strong belief in what they are doing have an inexhaustible energy to attain their dream even against all the odds. They speak from the heart and are not afraid of failure, they learn from their mistakes and get back up and try again and again. They don't spend time pondering on why they can't do something, talking themselves out of doing something different. They don't allow negative talk and fear of what others might think from holding them back. Good examples are Olympic athletes, successful business people, innovators, explorers and entrepreneurs. Here's a new belief for you to adopt, If they can do it then so can you. Confident and successful people are not made from special genes or extraordinary brains. Everyone has the ability to be successful. It is all done to the way that we think and consequently act.

Belief updating is like updating a computer with the latest programmes. Wonderful new programmes that will help it work more efficiently instead of becoming slow and only able to perform outdated tasks. The changing limiting beliefs process creates solid foundations for self-development that make change easier and more fluid. Old limiting beliefs are easily removed and are no longer barriers to change and self-fulfilment.

Some people have all the desire and determination in the world but find themselves unable to more forward. They have a limiting belief, a belief that is stopping them, a belief that is hindering their progress a belief that is not useful or helpful but only serves to make them unhappy. Beliefs are also behind the choices you make.

Despite all good intentions and desires limiting beliefs can have a detrimental affect on progress. They can stop your personal growth and development and restrict your freedom to be who you truly want to be and do what you truly want to do. Positive beliefs are extremely powerful energy sources for achieving desires. They widen your horizons and support personal growth. They stop that nagging inner voice and inner visions of failure and replace them with powerful feelings of inner strength. It creates a positive internal dialogue that supports your path to success.

Having a solid supporting positive belief creates an inexhaustible internal source of energy. This helps to drive a sense of purpose and makes life all the more easier and smoother as well as reducing stress. Imagine what it would be like to always be sure of where you are going, what path to take and secure in your own convictions and choices. The idea behind belief changing is to identify a limiting belief and assess the negative effect on your life, decisions and choices. You don't need to know where it came from or why it's there, just replace it with a more empowering belief.

SPEND 5 MINUTES ON THE FOLLOWING EXERCISE

Now write down a list of limiting beliefs that you think are holding you back.

Now write down the cost to your life. What are you missing out on? How are they holding you back?

What new empowering beliefs would you like to replace them with?

SUMMARY

This process is an excellent method to raise awareness of current beliefs and analyse their positive or negative effects on your life. We behave according to our beliefs. If we believe we can, then we can. If we believe we can't then we can't. Like a clean sweep it updates limiting beliefs for empowering beliefs that promote change, personal development and happiness. If we want to change then we must remove the limiting belief and replace it with an empowering belief. No matter how determined we are our beliefs must reflect and support any change. It provides motivation and energy to achieve your dreams and self fulfilment creating self confidence which moves you towards contentment.

Beliefs are created throughout our lives and although we may wish to maintain some others become obsolete and a hindrance. The most powerful force behind achieving change or remaining static is you. It is you who will stop you getting what you want not anyone else but it is also you who can motivate yourself to attain your greatest desires. Using this technique your energy will be concentrated on success and you will feel free from negativity and unjustified fears. Your new beliefs will be the driving force behind your self-development and self-fulfilment. It won't be long before you have a well established bank of empowering beliefs that will make your life much smoother, easier and less stressful and more enjoyable.

'Imagination is more important than knowledge' Albert Einstein

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Best wishes

Damian

Damian is a professional NLP life coach who used the empowering personal development techniques to manage his leukaemia and bone marrow transplant. He now runs a life coaching retreat in Normandy France. www.renaissanceretreat.com